5 Tips to Create a Painless Bedtime With Your Toddler

While there are many toddlers out there that can go to bed without a fuss and can sleep happily until morning, there are quite a few others who don’t. These toddlers try to negotiate, stall or delay every second they can before they actually fall asleep. If you’re struggling with your toddler’s bedtime process, these five tips will help create peace and even make you enjoy bedtime. Tip #1: The day affects the night:

If your toddler is hard to settle for bedtime or wakes up often during the night, their day may be the cause. Is he sleeping too much during the day? Try cutting back how long he's napping or you may need to drop the nap altogether (as long as he is at least 3 years old). Another reason can be he is not sleeping enough during the day? An overtired toddler can find it struggle falling asleep and staying asleep at night, so it's important that they get enough rest during the day. Is he getting enough attention during the day? Toddlers need a certain amount of attention and if they're not getting it during the day they have trouble letting go of the individualized attention they suddenly have as you are trying to put them to bed at night.

Tip #2: Teach your child what is expected of them:

It would be amazing for our little love bugs to just instantly obey us as we tell them to do something, but 9 times out of 10 their minds aren’t even grasping the idea of what you are trying to communicate to them. Be clear, precise, and fun. Think about it as they see it. Go through the bedtime routine as simple and fun as you possibly can. Get them excited about bedtime and teach them exactly what is expected of them during the night so there are no questions to be asked.

Tip #3: Routine, routine, routine:

I can’t say it enough. Routine is fundamental in creating a great sleeper. Kids love it and thrive on it. A nightly bedtime routine helps your child learn what is expected of them and their body. It allows their body to wine down and get sleepy. A solid routine during bedtime also creates a happy and enjoyable feeling for a child’s sleeping environment. It gives them security and sense of ownership.

Not every child has the same bedtime routine. But in general, your routine should include all the things that your child needs to do before going to sleep, including brushing teeth, taking a bath, putting on their pajamas, and having a snack or glass of water. Your child may want to be read to, talk about the day, or be told a story. Whatever you choose to do, keep the routine short (30 minutes or less) and be firm about ending it when it's time to sleep. No negotiating.

Tip #5: Let them give their opinion:

Eliminate the power struggle that often comes while you are trying to get your toddler to bed. Calm down, breathe and give them the opportunity to provide an opinion. You are the parent and you set the rules and the time that your toddler goes to sleep. But, giving options eliminates a full on power struggle and will make your bedtime routine much more enjoyable (for both you). Ask them if they would like to choose which pajamas they would like to wear? Which two books would you like to read tonight? Or what stuffed animal would you like to sleep with? These opportunities to allow them to make their own decisions, creates confidence and lowers the bedtime battles.

Tip #5: Give them praise:

Children need to receive words of affirmation after obeying things you have told them to do. Praise them for a job well done! Give them big hugs and tell them how cozy they looked while sleeping that night. Most parents use a sticker chart to help reward their child. Once they have received a certain amount of stickers, they receive a special surprise. Giving your child an opportunity to see their progress can help continue the process and get them excited to sleep in their bed without a huff and a puff.

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Melissa Perry is the Founder and Senior Sleep Consultant of www.thecradlecoach.com.  Please stop by to learn more about the services they offer!

Recipe of the Week - Amazing Almond Butter Chocolate Chip Cookies

Our family has been on a grain free journey and sadly the ONE thing I had not been able to create without good-ole-fashioned FLOUR was a solid chocolate chip cookie. Until now. These cookies from Amee's Savory Dish were incredibly simple to throw together (even toddler helper friendly). And the taste is incredible. Incredible. They are not chalky, since there is no flour substitute at all, just the nut butter and shredded coconut working magic.

Make them. You will thank me. Well, maybe not after you have eaten all two dozen...

  Almond Butter Dark Chocolate Chip Cookies from Amee's Savory Dish Adapted From Fast Paleo

Ingredients:

• 1 cup almond butter (love Barney Butter smooth!)
• 1/3 cup honey (can sub real maple syrup)
• 1 egg
• 1/2 Tbsp. vanilla extract
• 1/2 Tbsp. almond extract (or can use all vanilla extract) - (Lauren note: I would use all vanilla next time)
• 1/2 tsp. salt (*only add the salt if you are using unsalted almond butter)
• 1/2 tsp. baking soda
• 1/2 tsp. baking powder
• 2/3 cup shredded, unsweetened coconut
• 1/2 cup dark chocolate chips (such as Enjoy Life brand)

Directions:

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. 2. Oil baking sheets or line with parchment paper. 3. Stir together first 7 ingredients. Mix well. Make sure honey is fully incorporated. 4. Add coconut and chocolate chips and mix until well combined. 5. Scoop with a cookie scoop onto cookie sheets. Bake 9-12 minutes or until lightly browned.

Yield: about 20 cookies with a level 2 Tbsp. cookie scoop (Lauren note: I got 24!)

Sleep Troubles: Big Boy Bed and Room Sharing

I can still remember the day clearly (April 20, 2012) when my 19 month old son, Osias, figured out how to climb out of his crib. He decided that he wasn’t ready to take a nap since his Mimi and Papa were visiting from out of state. His Mimi read him a story, put him in his crib and came out of his room…a few minutes later so did he! We got a commemorative video of his new trick and hubby converted his crib into a toddler bed, thus beginning the next chapter in our life… Some people find this an exciting growing experience. With #2 on the way, I thought “Hey why not get this out of the way now?” Ha! Little did we know what adventures lay ahead for us. We spent the next 10 months trying everything to get him to stay in bed. I searched the web endlessly for a solution: we changed around his bed time hundreds of times hoping to nail that perfect moment, we tried camping out in his room and putting him back to bed whenever he got out, we stuck to a rigid routine, and recently we bought him something called a Sleep Sheep, which he loves, but did nothing to keep him in bed. Not one of our techniques worked. Every single night he got out of bed at least once, sometimes countless times. He emptied his dresser drawers, at one point crawled into said drawers, chewed on mini blinds, chatted with the neighbors through his closed window, and frequently fell asleep on the floor (sometimes underneath his bed). Each night took 1-2 hours for him to fall asleep, and ultimately reduced his nighttime sleep from 12 to an average of 10 hours. Yes, he used to be an excellent sleeper and even 10 hours isn’t so bad, but when you consider the 2 hour loss, it was quite frustrating! We eventually settled into an “I give up” routine where we would put him to bed and simply go in to his room every 15 minutes to silently put him back into his bed until he finally stayed.

Meanwhile, our daughter, Avia, was born in June 2012 and as we did with my son, we kept her in our bedroom. First in the bassinet, then we set up the crib (moving Osias into a twin bed). Normally we would have moved her out at about 4-5 months, but since we only had a 2 bedroom house and our son had such wonderful sleep habits (insert rolling eyes here), we kept her with us. Five months, six months, seven months…we were getting quite antsy. Every noise she made woke us up and visa versa. We even slept on an air mattress in the living room for a little while.

Finally, we decided to attempt the impossible: put both kids together in the same room. We were pretty sure it would fail and we’d be back to where we started, but no one was sleeping well anyway, so we figured we may as well try. The first night, Avia went to bed first and was sound asleep when we brought Osias in…that’s when the fun began. She stirred as we walked in and then Osias started chatting rather loudly about this and that, as only a two year old does and that was the end of that. She was awake and crying, to which Osias responded with “Avia’s crying, Avia’s crying!” Thanks bud, we hadn’t noticed. These shenanigans continued for about an hour and a half before the two of them had finally given up and fallen asleep. Sigh…

Night two went quite a bit better at the start. She may have stirred and cried for a couple seconds, but quickly ignored Osias as he continued with his nightly routine of getting out of bed over and over. However, that night’s experience was her middle of the night crying…even after she had gone back to sleep, Osias could not. I had to put him back to bed a number of times before it finally took.

Night three. Avia woke up when Osias went to bed, but this time they were just room-sharing buddies now. No crying from Avia, just babbling away for about an hour while Osias continued his nightly shenanigans. Cute, but still frustrating. We want our kids to SLEEP, do we not?

Night four, bliss! Relatively speaking anyway. It took just 3 nights for the two of them to learn to ignore each other. Yes of course there is the occasional exception, but generally speaking they share a bedroom wonderfully! Why oh why did we wait so long to do this? We have our bedroom back and are sleeping so much better! Woohoo!

Fast forward to one month later, both kids slept until 8am. Both! Normally, the kids are up sometime between 6:30-7 am. Sometimes together, sometimes at separate times. For those of you with just one baby or toddler, you know how wonderful it is when they randomly sleep later than usual. They are rare moments, but we LOVE this don’t we? Well, introduce a second child and that rarity loses it’s appeal because statistically speaking it’s about as likely as lightening striking the same place twice that the two of them will sleep late on the same morning. Well this one little joy was a precursor to what my son did that same night. For the first time since he climbed out of his crib almost a year ago, I put him to bed and he stayed there! He didn’t get out of bed once! A-mazing! Even if this doesn’t continue, it is still significant progress to me and I wonder…could this have anything to do with him sharing a room with his sister? Has he learned that getting out of bed and making lots of noise occasionally wakes up his sister and he’s decided that he doesn’t enjoy her crying any more than we do? I don’t know, but I’m excited to see how things progress from here. 

Recipe of the Week - Pancakes

What could be better on a cold winter morning than pancakes? Chocolate chip pancakes! I No matter how you like your pancakes this basic recipe will help get your mornings off to a good start! I love it because I can substitute and add whatever I want without changing the texture too much. My husband prefers them plain, I sprinkle some chocolate chips into mine and my toddler is just happy we pretend to let him pour the syrup. Pancakes 1 cup of Milk (I substitute almond and/or coconut milk) 1 Egg (you could use ¼ cup of applesauce) 1 Tbsp. of Oil or Butter (I use coconut oil)

1 cup of Flour (I use whole wheat) 1 Tsp. of Baking Powder ½ Tsp. Baking Soda

Mix all the wet ingredients together and then add the dry ingredients. Fry them up on a buttered pan in whatever size or shape you choose!

Like I said above, I add dark chocolate chips to mine. I also sometimes add coconut or I mash a banana into the batter. You could add blueberries or nuts, whatever you want. The possibilities are endless.